This Is How You Lose Her

By Junot Diaz
Publisher:Riverhead Hardcover, (9/11/2012)

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Pulitzer Prize-winner Junot Díaz’s first book, Drown, established him as a major new writer with “the dispassionate eye of a journalist and the tongue of a poet” (Newsweek). His first novel, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, was named #1 Fiction Book of the Year” by Time magazine and spent more than 100 weeks on the New York Times bestseller list, establishing itself – with more than a million copies in print – as a modern classic. In addition to the Pulitzer, Díaz has won a host of major awards and prizes, including the National Book Critic’s Circle Award, the PEN/Malamud Award, the PEN/O. Henry Prize, the Dayton Literary Peace Prize, and the Anisfield-Wolf Award.
Now Díaz turns his remarkable talent to the haunting, impossible power of love – obsessive love, illicit love, fading love, maternal love. On a beach in the Dominican Republic, a doomed relationship flounders. In the heat of a hospital laundry room in New Jersey, a woman does her lover’s washing and thinks about his wife. In Boston, a man buys his love child, his only son, a first baseball bat and glove. At the heart of these stories is the irrepressible, irresistible Yunior, a young hardhead whose longing for love is equaled only by his recklessness--and by the extraordinary women he loves and loses: artistic Alma; the aging Miss Lora; Magdalena, who thinks all Dominican men are cheaters; and the love of his life, whose heartbreak ultimately becomes his own. In prose that is endlessly energetic, inventive, tender, and funny, the stories in This Is How You Lose Her lay bare the infinite longing and inevitable weakness of the human heart. They remind us that passion always triumphs over experience, and that “the half-life of love is forever.”
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Ceci's thoughts on "This Is How You Lose Her"
updated on:2/3/2013

This collection of short stories may cause you to scream in exasperation or fury, but do not let that stop you from finishing the bookYour screams will be directed at Yunior, who appears in almost every story. He’s a smart man, but oh so foolish in matters of the heart. No, foolish is too generous. More like immature, reckless, irresponsible, and arrogantBut somehow, still enthrallingMaybe it’s that he doesn’t dwell on his actual accomplishments or try to recast his failures as victories. Instead, he painstakingly recounts his heartbreaks and failed relationships and spares no gory detail in pinpointing his own responsibility forthose failures. He rarely offers excuses. The same cycle of love and failure plays out again and again, but this seems to be just as much because he yearns for love as it is because he fails to correct his poor behavior. I was rooting for Yunior the whole time I was screaming at him. And I adore any book that finishes faithful to its story and dares to end without “they lived happily ever after.”


Nick's thoughts on "This Is How You Lose Her"
updated on:2/2/2013

If you are a man of Dominican descent who grew up in New Jersey, had a seemingly endless string of girlfriends and problems with the concepts of fidelity and monogamy, then this book is for you. If you are anyone else...not so much.

The entire time I was reading this book, I felt like there was some kind of inside information I wasn't privy to. It can be fascinating to have a window into another culture, but in this case it was just plain dull because the author didn't seem to take the time to take his readers along with him. The story didn't seem to follow any logical progression and it was hard to care about any of the characters. I tried, but just couldn't warm up to this one. On the positive side, it was a somewhat quick read, so at least it didn't weigh me down for too long.

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Book Junky's thoughts on "This Is How You Lose Her"
updated on:1/27/2013

Let me preface this with, "Once again this is an award winning author who I just could not get into." There. I have been upfront about my reading tastes, so you can take the rest of this review with whatever all that means.

The description of the book implies it is all about love, but don't let that suck you in… this was just BORING. This is how you lose her? Yeah, being boring is how you lose me. You might as well have named this book, "All the women I have had sex with and a few other random stories about people from the Dominican Republic"… I'm no prude, but please, get some meat in the story! (Hehe) Or actually talk about LOVE. I found very little actual love discussed in the book, but maybe that is discussable all in itself… hmmm. Nope, not worth wasting my time thinking about. Too boring.

I will admit that the writing itself is quite nice. But you are going to have to do more than turn a good phrase to turn this chica's head. Is this book discussable? I guess so, but DON'T go into thinking  your book club will have a profound discussion on love… it is just not there if you ask me.

P.S. Sorry to be so negative. It's not THAT bad. It just was not at all what I was expecting. I mean I did not want to throw it across the room as I have other books (mostly because I read it on my Kindle), but I just never wanted to pick it up and get back to reading it either.

Make me think, people! Make me think or give me some good meat (hehe) and I will love your book! Bore me and I'll chuck ya! This book is pretty close being a chucker!

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Beezy's thoughts on "This Is How You Lose Her"
updated on:1/1/1900

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"This Is How You Lose Her"
By Junot Diaz

Average Rating:
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3.25 out of 5 (4 Clubie's ratings)

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