Author Interview with Sally Shields author of "The Daughter-in-Law Rules"
Created By: BookBundlz
1. If you could have coffee with any 3 authors, living or dead, who would they be?
I'm so glad you didn't say they had to be famous, because some of my favorite authors are those that I've interviewed on Blurb!, and truly been blown away by their books.
As of today, I would say,
Debra Sanders, A Matter of Panache
Katheryn Speaks Large, Waiting in the Other Room
Kim Michelle Richardson, The Unbreakable Child
2. If you could only take one book, food item and drink with you to a deserted island what would they be?
I would take Meditations by Krishnamurti, flax seeds to make sure that all the nuts seeds and berries I'd be eating would pass correctly, and green tea.
3. What are your secret indulgences?
Anything coconut related. I have an insatiable craving for all things coconut! So, it's a good thing you stuck me on a deserted island - I bet there are coconut trees there!
4. What about you would surprise your readers?
I won the 1999 Great American Jazz Piano Competition
5. What is your perfect day as an author?
As an author, I feel that I need consistency. So, on the days after I drop off my kids at school, if I don't have to run around doing grocery shopping, or pick up dry cleaning or do laundry, or clean house, or chaperone a school trip, or run to the post office, or go to CURVES, and I can just come home to my computer and work on my current project for 3-5 hours, that is the perfect day. But, I'm afraid that rarely occurs. :-)
6. If you could be any fictional character who would it be?
WOW, these questions are really thought-provoking! Fictional character! I think, off the top of my head? Hermione.
7. What are the book(s) you are reading now?
I am reading...
The Streets Ran Red, by Morgan Lawrence
Think and Grow Rich, by Napolean Hill
Buddhism for Beginners, by Thubten Chodron
and Ask and it is Given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks
8. What was your favorite book as a teenager, and why?
When I was a teenager, I didn't read too much, I was too busy practicing the piano! I hadn't found a subject matter that I really loved yet, so I was just reading books that came my way via English class and Foreign Lit. I do remember enjoying the play, A Doll's House by Henrik Ibsen. I think it is because it was the first time I remember learning the message that a person can’t be happy when falling into the mold of someone else. To be happy, one must be oneself and know oneself. Since all of Nora’s life, she followed right behind her father and her husband, she did not know herself and had to leave to learn.
9. (Aside from your own) What book(s) have you read that you think are perfect for book clubs?
I think A Matter of Panache by Debra Sanders would be perfect.
I also think that book club readers would enjoy
The Kite Runner, The Notebook, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, The Alchemist, Cold Mountain, The Lovely Bones, The Secret Life of Bees, The TIme Traveler's Wife
but these are all obvious choices. :-)
About Your Book:
10. Where did the inspiration for your book come from?
Like most women, I got married and got a mother-in-law. But after a couple of years, I was left scratching my head, thinking, where is the manual for this?!!! I wrote to the ladies that wrote the bestselling book The Rules, and told them that since they helped all these women meet and marry the men of their dreams, they then needed to provide some advice on how to get along with the other woman in their man's life—his mom! These two authors told me it was the best idea they'd ever heard. I honestly just wanted some advice on the topic! "You should write it," they said. At first I thought they were crazy since the last thing I'd written was a term paper in high school English class! But, the gears started turning in my mind. So I started to jot down all the troublesome incidents that would pop into my head in regards to my MIL, and came up with a rule and a solution to deal with each and every one. When I put a few of these rules into practice (and saw that they actually worked) I thought maybe I could help save other young wives years of needless contention!
11. They say every book written is the author telling a personal philosophy. What personal philosophy are you trying to get across?
The Daughter-in-Law Rules is based on the 7th spiritual law of success, which is: the quickest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want. By that I mean, be a loving, kind-hearted, sensitive person, and the world will reflect that back to you, even in the form of your mother-in-law!
12. Writers are often surprised by something that happens in their book. Perhaps a character says or does something you did not think they would, or something you thought would only be a couple of paragraphs turns into 10 pages. What surprised you about your book?
What surprised me the most, was that when I started writing the book, I was bordering on frustration, anger, and resentfulness. When I came out the other side, I was filled with compassion, patience and empathy.
About Your Writing Process:
13. What is your writing process like?
My process begins with writing everything down all at once, over a very short, intense period of time. The next few months are then filled with organization, editing, re-writing, and more editing and more re-writing. The re-writing and editing process is where I get a lot of charge and inspiration!
14. What gets you in the mood to write?
Anytime my children are asleep. LOL
15. What advice would you give to aspiring authors?
Never give up on your dreams. You don't have to know the how, but focus on the why. Don't set limits and reach for the sky. Do positive affirmations morning and evening, and you will see your thoughts transform into things. You can manifest your desires by focusing on the things that you want. Don't give up because it takes a while for the universe to prepare the meal that you've ordered, but know that it is in the oven back there so make sure you don't leave the restaurant!